Your Limiting Beliefs
The greatest limitations that we have in life
are nothing to do with our capabilities.
Our greatest limitations are the perceived limitations
that we place upon ourselves.
Please note that I say “perceived”. That’s important.
Limiting beliefs are thoughts and beliefs we have about ourselves that place limits on how we live our lives.
Everyone has them and unfortunately, they don’t just give you a wave and say “Hi, I’m your limiting belief about ____ but I’m totally wrong and you should stop believing in me. Now go boss life gf!”
And then you go boss life.
Limiting beliefs are often formed when we are growing up and are influenced from our past experiences and the people in our lives.
So they are deep as.
Now a life coach isn’t a psychologist so I can’t help you wade through that past shit to figure out what it means.
I don’t even know what my past shit means!
But I can help you figure out what your limiting beliefs are and work on all the epic shiz you can do with your life once we drop them like a hot potato.
Well maybe that quickly is a bit ambitious. Getting rid of limiting beliefs is work and it’s confronting.
It’s kinda like telling yourself that you’ve been short-changed your whole damn life. And you’re the tight ass doing it.
You are literally saying to yourself
“I am wrong”
Because (and here’s the good news)…
Limiting beliefs are not the truth.
They might be your truth but your truth is probably not the actual truth.
Basically, I’m saying that you actually aren’t right about your own life.
My last blog post said that your brain is a liar and talked about how we create scenarios in our heads which often stress us out or make us feel crap.
Well limiting beliefs are also your brain lying to you but it’s layers and layers of lies backed up by “evidence” it’s been carefully collecting.
And just because you think something for years of your life and you believe you have the evidence to back it, doesn’t make it the truth.
Our brains hate to be wrong.
So if we have a little seed of a belief about ourselves, then our tricky wee brain seeks to validate that by collecting information to support it.
A simple example.
You believe that you’re bad at running. You tell yourself that you’re bad at running and whenever you try to go for a run, it sucks. You’re heaving, you’re sweaty af, you’re incredibly slow and your technique resembles a baby giraffe. And EVERYONE is thinking that as you flail on by.
Girl you are not bad at running. You’re just fucking unfit, you had too many wine & cheese platters in 2018 and you haven’t learnt a good running technique.
But now that you’ve stacked up a few “failed” runs as evidence, it has become your truth.
And I don’t care if you say that you don’t like running anyway.
You are telling yourself that you are bad which is putting yourself down. And you’re limiting how capable you are at doing something.
That’s not healthy for that banging self-worth you should have!
Limiting beliefs also affect your goals
Quite often, we set goals for ourselves that we don’t achieve because we haven’t addressed whether we actually believe we can achieve them or not.
Or we hit our first stumble along the road and our brain turns into Horatio from CSI Miami who bags and tags that as evidence against us.
And when we don’t achieve that goal… well how much more evidence do you need that you can’t do it and you were right all along about yourself.
We are all mind fucking ourselves. Every. Day.
But unlike with that lazy af ex-bf who cheated on you with Carol from accounts, you can’t just sass out of this with his burning piles of clothes lighting your way.
So we need to un-mindfuck ourselves.
Hooooowwww!? I’ve been building up all these thoughts about myself for years. I don’t even know what’s true and what’s not!
Well first step. Ask yourself.
What is a belief that I have about myself that is holding me back?
You’ll have an inkling.
I discovered that I thought I was average at everything. Not bad but never amazing.
So I didn’t try my best and every time I didn’t do as well as my expectations, I popped that in my wee pocket of evidence.
Average at school, average at dancing, average at sport, average intelligence…
And I was average at these.
Not because of my capability. Because I told myself I was. I mentally resigned myself to this “fact”.
Try Asking yourself these questions.
What is a belief I have that has been holding me back?
What evidence do I have that supports this belief?
Is this belief always true for me?
That’s a great start. Just having awareness of your limiting belief and questioning its truth can shake things up a little in your mind.
I have a full worksheet that I’m happy to share if you need it x
That’s enough truth for one week.
Remember, you are wrong about yourself. You are capable of anything.
Your evidence is false. Horatio is a shit detective. And nobody liked CSI Miami anyway.